Try the “Not To Do List”

This is my “Not To Do List.” What a concept, eh? In my city-life-coaching-world of productivity I like to joke that I’m and “underachiever.” Meaning that being someone who meditates, takes walks, and listens to audio books that are not about self-improvement I’ve come up with my “Not To Do List.” The double meaning is […]

Be Authentic. One little thing at a time.

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” – Oscar Wilde “Too thin, too old, not this, not that, never been to Europe, never did this, never did that …” (the list goes on and on and on). – my negative brain Oscar Wilde (in the 1800’s) said what the new entrepreneurial market is re-teaching us: do […]

“The best way to predict the future is to invent it.”

(quote by) … Alan Kay. Coaching is fond of inventing your future. What we take action on, what we think, what we believe shapes our universe. When was the last time you misunderstood someone? Maybe, like me, you’ve become foolishly impatient in traffic only to discover that the person stopped in front of you was waiting for […]

HOLidays not HELLidays – two 30 second survival tools

When life feels like an utter shit-storm then the only thing you need to get done is the “next right thing” [12-step saying]. Often the next right thing is sometimes a breath, a walk, something to eat, or that box you need to unpack. The problem with overwhelm is that we’re paying attention to, not only […]

The Neuroscience of Prayer

Agnostic? Sketical? Good. “Prayer is sitting in the silence until it silences us, choosing gratitude until we are grateful, praising God until we ourselves are a constant act of praise.” – Fr. Richard Rohr, OFM OK, so I confess: maybe I don’t know squat about neuroscience, but I do know a little about the changes to my brain through […]

Remember how excited you used to be over a 3-ring binder?

I used to be so excited about the beginning of school: all of those cool office supplies (ok, so I’m a geek), with a zippered plastic pencil pouch, a schedule, and a section for each class. How one binder could hold my whole life … the rest of the school year? Different story. Here’s my […]

Tailgaters: late for your funeral?

I’ve had this East Coast sarcastic idea for a few years: create an store called Sarcastically Spiritual. We’d sell coffee mugs, t-shirts, and bumper stickers. Mostly my big ideas come from being in traffic. Bumper Sticker #1 – “Tailgating: late for your funeral?” Bumper Sticker #2 – “What’s your hurry? Life ends in a ditch.” […]

Speaking of firing … fire god.

Well not just any god. Fire the one from childhood. You know the one: whose like Santa Claus, keeping a (vengeful) list of whose “naughty or nice.” Personally, I’ll take the naughty bus any day; guaranteed to be a lot more of an interesting bunch. No, seriously. What if you fired the vengeful, wrathful god […]

Own Less Do Less Be Happy

“Even Socrates, who lived a very frugal and simple life, loved to go to the market. When his students asked about this, he replied, “I love to go and see all the things I am happy without.” – Jack Kornfield How do I manage my ADHD? I have less to manage. Here’s what it gives […]

If I’m Your Coach: fire me.

I was talking with a client this morning whose not finding the results he wanted in coaching. He knows, as I do, that there’s no quick fix to this (he’s a coach too). There’s no fancy instant answer, only being curious, trying new things, and making the best of it. So I challenged him: fire […]