The Father No Longer: a 10-minute self-coaching trick

Before my elderly father passed away I decided to examine some of my negative thoughts about him. He wasn’t an easy dad but he was my dad: did I still want to relate to him like I was 14? On his visits I noticed that like many elderly, his cognitive abilities had waned: he retells his […]

Create your 2018 and reflect on your 2017 (free coaching)

So, it’s that time of year that we all make promises that we’re not going to keep. Boring! What would it be like to review your year and enjoy the process? This is a simple coaching form that I offer this time of year for free. I challenge you to fill it out and send me […]

Optimize Your Life (if you dare)

Some people love this guy. Some can’t stand him. But in either case his material is very, very useful. My favorite are his Plus One’s. “Just a little more today.”  These are daily teachings that bring short “Optimize Your Life” solutions. Here’s his freebie: https://www.optimize.me/plus-one/you-vs-your-problems Cheers!     “People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them […]

Be The Question (be effective) – diapers, Koan’s, ADHD, Your Mind.

My mind loves to worry. If you took worry away from me I might implode. My ADHD Brain ideally needs quiet and calm, but it naturally creates havoc. I say “my brain” because this child-ish self-centered part of This Mind loves to pontificate on how much crap it thinks it lives through. Which tells you I don’t […]

ADHD and Losing EVERYTHING: get a purse.

After losing my wallet twice in two months and doing the Jesus-H-Christ-Where-The-Hell-Are-My-Keys search the house routine one morning (which is a rarity for me) I decided to go back to carrying a small bag. Years ago that meant going to the Mission and buying a cheap mini camera bag, but this many years later going to […]

Thanks Giving: Quick Goals & Free Coaching (nothing to buy)

So this’ll take 5 minutes … OK so maybe 10 … It’s almost 2018 and the two things that work so well in coaching, and life, are accountability and goals. I make my clients set them yearly and quarterly. I never believed in goals. Then a set a few. Then I watched my clients FLY […]

Be Here Now (even though your brain is so damn noisy)

From “WORD FOR THE DAY” www.gratefulness.org   “There are many fine things which you mean to do some day, under what you think will be more favorable circumstances. But the only time that is yours is the present.”   – Grenville Kleiser   Someone that Anne Lamott quotes, a Jesuit Priest I used to know, […]

Write 5 Minutes a Day and Change Your Life …

… or at least enjoy it a hell of a lot better. I have known about, and preached about daily writing, for as long as I’ve been a coach. If you want to keep on doing same thing, and create the same results, then keep doing that. When Tim Gunn, a fashion guru, is approached […]

The 7 Factors Of Success vs. The Hamster-Wheel-of-Not-Enough

Have you ever felt like you were stuck on the Hamster-Wheel-of-Not-Enough? At the end of the day are you ever uncertain if you’re “successful” … and might feel utterly shitty because you’re inbox literally and figurative  is still full? One day this landed in my lap like a cinder block falling out of the sky and I didn’t  know […]

The 7 Factors Of Success – or – The Hamster-Wheel-of-Not-Enough?

Have you ever felt like you were stuck on the Hamster-Wheel-of-Not-Enough? At the end of the day are you ever uncertain if you’re “successful” … and might feel utterly shitty because you’re inbox literally and figurative  is still full? One day this landed in my lap like a cinder block falling out of the sky and I didn’t  know […]