The Promises – building a future

At the end of the 12-step meetings I attended back in Boston a volunteer would read aloud “The Promises” from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. My friend Paul would, without fail, emphasize the word “always” near end of the reading. “Always” hasn’t been a word that I’ve trusted: maybe, possibly, might – those were […]

What If I let go of my security blanket?

Recently my Coach (yes coaches need coaches) pegged me on a ’story’ that I was clutching to, like the little blue security blanket I had as a child, all tattered and worn out (with a satin edge, quite frayed from being chewed on). What is this story doing for me? What’s the purpose? Think about it, […]

The Father No Longer: a 10-minute self-coaching trick

Before my elderly father passed away I decided to examine some of my negative thoughts about him. He wasn’t an easy dad but he was my dad: did I still want to relate to him like I was 14? On his visits I noticed that like many elderly, his cognitive abilities had waned: he retells his […]

Optimize Your Life (if you dare)

Some people love this guy. Some can’t stand him. But in either case his material is very, very useful. My favorite are his Plus One’s. “Just a little more today.”  These are daily teachings that bring short “Optimize Your Life” solutions. Here’s his freebie: Cheers!     “People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them […]

Be The Question (be effective) – diapers, Koan’s, ADHD, Your Mind.

My mind loves to worry. If you took worry away from me I might implode. My ADHD Brain ideally needs quiet and calm, but it naturally creates havoc. I say “my brain” because this child-ish self-centered part of This Mind loves to pontificate on how much crap it thinks it lives through. Which tells you I don’t […]

ADHD and Losing EVERYTHING: get a purse.

After losing my wallet twice in two months and doing the Jesus-H-Christ-Where-The-Hell-Are-My-Keys search the house routine one morning (which is a rarity for me) I decided to go back to carrying a small bag. Years ago that meant going to the Mission and buying a cheap mini camera bag, but this many years later going to […]

Thanks Giving: Quick Goals & Free Coaching (nothing to buy)

So this’ll take 5 minutes … OK so maybe 10 … It’s almost 2018 and the two things that work so well in coaching, and life, are accountability and goals. I make my clients set them yearly and quarterly. I never believed in goals. Then a set a few. Then I watched my clients FLY […]

Be Here Now (even though your brain is so damn noisy)

From “WORD FOR THE DAY”   “There are many fine things which you mean to do some day, under what you think will be more favorable circumstances. But the only time that is yours is the present.”   – Grenville Kleiser   Someone that Anne Lamott quotes, a Jesuit Priest I used to know, […]

The 7 Factors Of Success vs. The Hamster-Wheel-of-Not-Enough

Have you ever felt like you were stuck on the Hamster-Wheel-of-Not-Enough? At the end of the day are you ever uncertain if you’re “successful” … and might feel utterly shitty because you’re inbox literally and figurative  is still full? One day this landed in my lap like a cinder block falling out of the sky and I didn’t  know […]

Try the “Not To Do List”

This is my “Not To Do List.” What a concept, eh? In my city-life-coaching-world of productivity I like to joke that I’m and “underachiever.” Meaning that being someone who meditates, takes walks, and listens to audio books that are not about self-improvement I’ve come up with my “Not To Do List.” The double meaning is […]