Gratitude, abundance, altars, and coaching …

For myself I was raised without the “fear of god” put into me, and thus came into spirituality (vs. religion) with ease. What an odd saying, “putting the fear of god,” why would anyone want to fear god? Not having been raised with religion it was fairly easy to begin attending a liberal church right […]

Our Distracted Mind: bring some calm into your day.

I have Attention Deficit Disorder (ADHD). And I coach others who feel chronically disorganized and overwhelmed. It’s a misnomer that we have a deficit of attention … it’s like saying with 500 channels, an iPhone, an iPad, and 100 RSS feeds we have a deficit of information input. It’s also a myth that everyone with […]

Success: “Are you happy?”

So much of our culture defines ‘success’ as how much we have: cars, a home, and especially work. While being financially successful gives us comfort and security, the question is, at the end of the day, at the end of the decade, or at the end of our lives can we look back and smile? […]

Cliff Diving – the sport of my inner critic

In being coached by my friend Karen she walked me through launching yet another magnificent change in life that includes a financial leap … like any leap I’m feeling fear. The fear of falling flat on my face, or in this case the fear of being hurtled down a cliff and splattered to my gory […]

To My Old Email Address: grow up … and yes I love you …

I first discovered email in 1996 on an orange iMac with (cringe) AOHELL (as a computer geek admitting one actually paid AOL is the digital version of black socks with high water polyester slacks). Claiming the screen name ‘boykenji’ in 1996 I committed the sin of “wont grow up” (I was 34); no longer a […]

Take a nap? What are you nuts?

The benefits of napping are many and varied, NASA has said that nap can increase productivity by up to 34%. Researchers on napping and long term memory function taught two groups a specific task with a series of steps. They then let one group stay awake and the other group had a 90 minute nap […]

Mr. Impatient.

Mr. Impatient, the part of me that believes in the Zero Sum Game of Abundance, thinks the that world works like this: I give to you, you give back (or else), I hold the door for you, you say “Thank you.” Then If I seemingly get nothing in return I’ve lost out. There’s never enough […]

Woke up!

I once nonchalantly asked an older neighbor, “How’s your morning?” and without missing a beat he shot back “Woke up!” About 10 steps later it sunk in; he was saying: I’m still here, that’s a blessing, and my life is a miracle. Last night,with my take out dinner in hand, I leisurely walked down Castro […]

The Quick 6-Step Simple Focus Your Day Process

How to focus yourself, map out what you have to do, be more effective, and jump start your day. Another 6-step simple process that only requires pen and paper, and about 10 minutes of your time.  

The Promises – building a future

At the end of the 12-step meetings I attended back in Boston a volunteer would read aloud “The Promises” from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. My friend Paul would, without fail, emphasize the word “always” near end of the reading. “Always” hasn’t been a word that I’ve trusted: maybe, possibly, might – those were […]