ADHD as a Paradox

“Having ADHD makes life paradoxical. You can super focus sometimes, but also space out when you least mean to. You can radiate confidence and also feel as insecure as a cat in a kennel. You can perform at the highest level, feeling incompetent as you do so. You can be loved by many, but feel as if no one really likes you. You can absolutely, totally intend to do something, then forget to do it. You can have the greatest ideas in the world, but feel as if you can’t accomplish a thing.” (I’d like to add, personally, that I coach super successful people and part of this paradox is that our lives are awesome … I know mine is … it just doesn’t look like “9 to 5.”)

-Dr. Edward M. Hallowell (Author of 2 awesome ADHD books: Answers To Distraction and Driven to Distraction)

The paradox of my ADHD is that I can go in 80 directions at once, or nowhere. The question is am I being: helpful, loving, efficient, and is my behavior useful, kind, and productive? Or am I like those spinning hub caps at a stop light: moving, annoying, accomplishing nothing, and being a tad judgmental?

Personally, I found Driven to Distraction as exciting as dry toast but Answers To Distraction helped me better understand my ADHD and me: where do I begin, where does “it” end, and what am I going to do about it?

The problems in your life may not have been your fault, but they are your responsibility.

Are you making plans or excuses?
Are you using the carrot or the stick?
Are you really enjoying your “one precious life” or running through it?

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